There are millions of people walking this earth and almost all of them walk with a face that isn't their own. We all pose as something we're not. We all at some point of time become someone we're not. No matter what our age or location, gender or occupation may be, we all walk as the person we truly aren't. And yet, we have never stopped to think 'why?'. Why do we pretend to be something or someone we're not? Why do we need to hide the real identity of ourselves? Why do we give so much importance to the opinions of those people who mean almost next to nothing to us, and that we're only companions for this contemporary period of our life? More importantly, do we ever stop to question or even realise for that matter, who we really are? Its amazing how we live our whole lives trying to be someone we're not, just to impress the people around us that at the end we end up losing our identity and are molded into the shape that has been appreciated by those handful of people who we interact with everyday.
The secrets we hide, the lies we tell, the person we pretend to be just so that it makes us acceptable to the world. We don't dare show who we really are because we fear judgement and rejection. This haunting fear of being judged and then rejected upon scrutiny scares us and makes us do things and say things and be people we aren't really supposed to be. By giving in to this fear does not by any stretch of imagination qualify us as weak, it just makes those who don't stronger.
But never once has anyone ever stopped to think about the question - Does it really matter? Does it really matter if not everyone likes us? Does it really matter that the world looks at as and talks nasty behind our backs? The answer should be obvious NO ! Because those who talk beind our backs are not only weaker, but are incapable of being strong. They do not have the ability it takes to break away from the so-called norm and show their true self. Besides in all likelihood, those are the people who instead of evolving further, start evolving backwards. Chances are, that, tomorrow when we look back at our lives, we won't see the life we imagined, we won't see the person we thought we were, we would just be standing in this dark vaccum where the past (which is of course unrecognisable); our past is standing before us and laughing at us, simply because we did not have the courage ...
6 comments:
it SHOULDN'T matter, actually.
it's impossible to please everyone, so we shouldn't be surprised if we find that not everyone likes us. and just because they don't like us, doesn't mean they hate us either.
even we ourselves don't like everyone around us. it's normal, i guess. we just need to realise this, and accept it, and move on.
remember, those who matter to us will like us... unless we do something really crappy to make them hate us, in which case, we deserve to be hated!
We all live insecure lives..don't we? But hmm..like your post for its honesty. I think the need to be accepted by others somewhere also stems from the need to be accepted by ourselves.
hmmm...i agree with u oxymoron. i think this need to feel accepted by others does stem from us not being able to accept ourseves...
rightly said, but for that we need to be more open minded ..to accept that not everyone will like us and that not everyone will accept us..these feelings come with an open mind, and sadly in today's world where everyone is trying so hard to be morally correct and self-righteous (because we worry more about what the world would think of us and forget what we think of ourselves), we end up becoming judgmental about everything and forget that we need to be accepting of the vagueries around us. this ends up making us progress backwards rather than forward ...
how true......but wat doest and shouldntmatter does matter. irony of life??
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